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12/13/2025

It's easy to take your spouse for granted. Time, familiarity, and human nature are all contributors. It's vital to never forget that your spouse is perhaps God's most obvious blessing in your life! Maybe you agree, maybe you don't. Consider the following.

If we REALLY believe in the gospel, our greatest treasure must be Christ. As his followers, we are called to be molded, refined, and remade into Christ-like people (a.k.a. sanctification). This truth remains whether your marriage is great or going through a rough patch.

In times of joy and hardship, your marriage is a reminder of the selfless love and grace needed by you and supplied by Christ on the cross. In marriage, you GIVE grace and love, then you RECEIVE grace and love—both in portions and ways only available in covenantal marriage.

Whatever season you're going through, your spouse is one of God's most obvious blessings. The beauty of lifelong covenant is that it gives love enough time and room to mature into something truly lasting.

Your marriage is a gift and a blessing from God himself. Hold tight to that truth!
Always remember what a blessing your spouse is—and tell him or her that you appreciate them regularly.

In fact, start by tagging him/her in the comments with a kind word or two!

Stay fierce,
Ryan & Selena

Note: This is a huge topic! If you're looking for more depth on this, make sure to check out our book "Fierce Marriage" (wherever books are sold). In it, we outline every aspect of marriage and how the Gospel changes everything.

11/08/2025

There is a big difference between healthy and unhealthy combat between a husband and wife. In an unstable marriage, hostility is aimed at the partner's soft underbelly with direct and cutting comments that strike at the very heart of the mate's self-worth. Healthy conflict is focused on the issues that cause disagreement. When couples learn this important distinction, they can work through their conflicts without wounding and insulting each other.

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10/29/2025

Marriage is called a covenant for good reason. It is an agreement that puts boundaries around behavior to provide an environment where the relationship can flourish.

Throughout scripture, the marital covenant is illustrated and regulated among God's people. We see how much God cares about marriage by observing its proximity and prevalence among other critical directives.

Adultery is originally condemned in the same passage forbidding idolatry, murder, coveting, and stealing. In the last book of the Old Testament, Malachi rails against faithless husbands while also condemning a deeply corrupt priesthood in his famous reprimand of Judah.

Our earthly covenants with each other are as important and weighty to God as His own covenant with us. It is an integral idea to God because of how it affects our relationships with our spouses, but more so because of how it correlates to our holiness as His people.

May your covenant with each other hold all the weight and joy that God intended, and may Christ's goodness compel you to love each other even when times are hard.

Stay fierce,
Ryan and Selena

IMPORTANT NOTE: Many wives and husbands feel hopeless right now because they're clinging to God and honoring their covenant, even though their spouse isn't. If that's you, we're praying for you. What you're going through is immensely difficult. If you're reading this and your marriage is in a strong place, take a moment to pray for the individuals fighting for their marriage alone.

10/10/2025

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09/24/2025

Weddings are amazing celebrations of love and devotion in front of God and those you love most. Many couples, however, don't anticipate what's in store for them after the wedding...after the honeymoon...and after the first year they're married.

Marriage is as wonderful as it is challenging, and the further into your marriage you get, the more you realize it will cost you. Love...true love...costs us more than we can ever realize before the moment payment is due. But that's why the covenant is in place: to hold you together through tough times so your love for each other can mature into something truly God-honoring.

What does love cost? It costs pride, time, effort, selfishness, and so much more. But that's the beauty of real love: it's a choice you can make even when you feel like doing the opposite. You can always choose to give love.

Why must we cling so hard to our covenant to each other? Because when the feelings of love are absent, we're most at risk of making mistakes that will devastate ourselves and each other. We must choose to love through the difficult times so we can experience the promise of love for a lifetime.

The temptation is to just "try harder" when things get tough. While an effort is needed, it's in vain if it's not motivated and fueled by the love of Christ and understanding his covenant with you...his promise.

Remember that Christ has promised to never leave you, to always love you, to always forgive you, and to always pursue you. That revelation alone will fill you with an identity that is eternal and joy that overwhelms.

Remember the unending goodness of Christ as you learn exactly what "covenant" means. In doing so, your marriage will become a constant avenue for God's glory and your joy.

Stay fierce,
Ryan & Selena

09/23/2025

Respect cannot be taken or demanded, and nor should it be. It's also not something that should be held back unduly. The best kind of respect is that which is given generously and mutually.

Respect begets respect. When a husband respects his wife, he recognizes and admires her intrinsic (God-given) qualities which compel action to treat her as the treasure she is.

When a wife respects her husband, she acknowledges his identity in Christ and sees him as a gift to be cared for and guarded.

The idea of respect is culturally grating - it irritates us - especially in Western society. We must not let culture dictate our view of it. Respect is something God commanded in marriage, not for our suffering but for our flourishing! (1 Peter 2-3, Ephesians 5) It's part of his good design!

Here's the thing, respect isn't something we can muster up at will. That only produces bitterness and resentment. True, lasting, deep respect for your spouse always starts with an unwavering respect for God and everything He is, says, and does. He is all powerful, completely good, infinitely loving, and the only one worthy of worship! When we see God for who He is, we're filled with amazement and gratitude - that he loves us and redeems us even though we're imperfect and unholy. That's where respect starts; knowing who God is and who He says you are when you're in Christ.

May your marriage embody a lifelong exchange of mutual respect that is rooted in Christ. If it does, you will experience joy and peace in ways you could never imagine.

Stay fierce,
Ryan & Selena

08/24/2025

Love is the constant pursuit of another. When we love someone, we'll go to great lengths to be closer to them and connect with them on a deeper level.

Pride keeps us from getting closer to each other and more tragically, closer to God.
Love disarms pride.

Love compels us to admit it when we're wrong and motivates us to forgive when we're wronged.

Keep the communication lines clear: apologize quickly and forgive readily. This will keep small arguments from tailspinning into full blown discord and division.

May you and your spouse love with abundant grace and forgiveness that comes from the ultimate source of grace: Jesus.

Love you all,
Ryan & Selena
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08/24/2025