12/05/2026
Reprogramming human consciousness is generally not easy. Im reminded being at home with my parents, in the house I grew up in, that patterns developed from my childhood, like "this drawer has the silverware in it" are surprisingly hard to change. My parents re-did the kitchen maybe 8 years ago and the silverware drawer that has the silverware in it changed. I have been home countless times since, and yet I find myself still going to the drawer that used to have the silverware in it. This pattern is deep and has been hard to change - even in its gross simplicity. And that is in the physical realm, where it is a very clear yes/no, the silverware is here or it is there.
Extending to mental patterns, emotions patterns, or even belief systems... things that are a bit harder to define...seem like they are even more challenging to change. And they are what shape our lives and culture to a very high degree. Compassion, awareness, forgiveness, listening, and persistence are the tools in the tool belt to make these kinds of change. There is no pill, no quick fix, no magically changing over night.
Similarly, it seems cultural structures that have been passed down for generation to generation are even more deeply entrenched. Culturally held beliefs or even things like governance structures, take time to change, often only at the pace of older generations dying off. From the constitution that declared that all men are created equal, to the emancipation of slaves, to the end of segregation, to now where our culture is still struggling with racism...250 years later.
Punctuated equilibrium, when a society collapses and reforms, is always an option. But typically involves a huge "death" process. Maybe that is needed now...but I really hope not.
One of the deepest problems we face culturally right now is that our systems (especially technological) are changing at a pace that makes it hard for most people to adapt and to re-program patterns.
So what do we do?? If you ask me, evolution holds the key. Darwin said, "its not the strongest nor most intelligent that survives, but the one most adaptable to change". The pattern in nature that exemplifies this most is Horizontal Gene Transfer. Like when a bacteria adapts to a new antibiotic and then shares pieces of its DNA with other bacteria so they evolve to the new environment.
This happens not just at the bacteria level, but at multicellular organisms and even crazily enough between different species.
Socially, I believe we can do the same thing. But it takes individuals who are both finding solutions/sharing them, and most importantly, those who are willing to listen and integrate these codes. Without listening, discernment, and the openness to change, we are rate limited in our evolutionary process by the death of older generations.
This is why I believe Community now than ever is so important. Coming together, learning from each other, sharing codes. This is why I believe the elder youth dialogue is so important. This is why I have dedicated my life to the work that I do. Yes for the collective wellbeing, but "selfishly" because I want to live a life of belonging, meaning, and connection.
Actualize is meant to be a place to support this process. To bring people together, to share codes, to share resources...with intention and purpose of helping people create a life of more belonging, meaning, connection, and ideally less time on technology / more time in person.
If you resonate, reach out and see how we can work together, endosymbiotically, for the benefit of each of us and the whole we are a part of 🙏❤️🌈🌎💦
