18/06/2024
What is a GOOD MOM?
I think society wants to make us think, that a good Mom takes care of her family all the time, puts their needs before hers, is not selfish, is always there for her kids, bakes the cakes, hosts the best bday parties and so on.
She is the last one to sit down at the end of a long day.
I think that version of a „good mom“ ist constantly stressed, tired & unhappy on the inside.
Because the pattern behind is:
- people pleasing
- neglecting own needs
- old beliefs that moms have to be caring all the time
That leads to a life with stress, hustle, grind, bad conscience, lack and frustration.
👉🏼 I think differently of being a good mom.
I see myself as a mentor to my daughter.
I want her to build self esteem and to be self-effective.
Instead of doing everything for her, I let her explore the world and figure things out by herself.
I want her to be independent. And not depend on my help all the time.
I rather observe her and give her some guidance, when necessary.
I am her mentor.
That’s so much more relaxed. That gives me time to lay in the sun while she’s playing by herself. A 10 month old? Yes, she is great at playing by herself, using her curiosity and fantasy.
She’ll check on me every once in a while and she’ll learn that it’s safe her to just be and play.
Mom life is not supposed to be stress and hurry. It’s supposed to be fun and ease.
Let’s change our beliefs around parenthood 💃🏻
Who is with me? 🙋🏻♀️
(Please share this post with other Moms who want more ease, more time, more serenity in their everyday life).
