06/14/2026
The Father's Day story, 2024. Grateful for the memory, my garden has many words growing there amongst the flowers.
Spiders
I have had a life long fear of spiders. My Mum always said it was because I was bitten in the eye when I was very young, swelling became so bad I was taken to the doctor, which was rare for any of us as my Mum had a great fear of hospitals. Mum said I would never forget about that spider, I shivered when she talked about the spider plants in her garden. I used to dream of them being full of spiders when I walked past in the early morning, jumping from the depths of the green leaves and flowers on my bare legs and feet. I reached the street by another path, which I hoped was spider less. Spider nightmares have visited me for many years.
I love the springtime in my garden, spiders are tiny little things, newborn and struggling with their first tiny webs, itty bitty babies in numbers, perhaps birds eat a lot of them. I like to think so, even though I know spiders enjoy eating bugs. I still check ceilings for spiders, if I am home alone extensions are invaluable, and I pray spider cannot get out of the vacuum cleaner. I fear the garden shed, the webs of residents are thick and many on the windows and in the corners. My Grandsons know that nana does not want to see their pet spiders.
When autumn arrives in my garden, I pray for frost, hard frost. The days of walking in a dream near and amongst the flowers and plants, enjoying its wonders and promises of today and tomorrow are over. I spend much less time concentrating on photos, I thank God every dew washed morning when large webs are outlined in the first light of autumn days. Large spiders live there, very large spiders. Fast spiders, spiders looking to leave their kin behind them for next years garden. They are the spiders that haunt me, still.
I think now my Dad used to sing me a little song quite often for a long time when I was afraid. It was a mere handful of words ripe with imagination, a handful of notes sung by his father many years ago. The spider was washed away and some of us will always recall that funny little tune that told of the sad story of a hapless spider who never learned to swim but he also never learned to give up. I thought of that rhyme, my Dad singing it a couple of weeks ago, when a rose picture revealed a little resident spider just resting (or sleeping) (or stalking) from the heart of a lovely deep pink Gallica rose on a perfect spring morning. It had rained the night before, perhaps spider was glad of a little fresh drink, I do not know if spiders get thirsty.
I can hear my Dad singing that spider tune in the garden to me, working in the garden with a shovel or a pair of clippers or grass trimmers. Dad used to sing the spider song in the car on fine spring days, smiling and laughing if he missed a word, when the window was rolled down and a little spring breeze flew inside to seal the memory of the finest of moments with me. Spider in my garden last week was small, but the memory he (or she) chose to leave in the rising sunshine was large. Others must know the rhyme, it’s probably still travelling around, like the memories of my Father.
Inky Dinky spider climbed up the water spout,
Down came the rain and washed the spider out.
Out came the sun and dried up all the water
And Inky Dinky spider went up the spout again.
Crystal Trojek
Father’s Day 2024